I know there’s a whole lot of traditional do’s and don’ts when it comes to wording etiquette, but I’m all about keeping your wording simple and communicating the needed information to your guests in the most appropriate and visually appealing way.
When you work with me to create custom invitations, you’ll fill out a wording form which provides me with all the important information, then I will lay it out in a way that I feel best represents your personalities and the tone of your wedding.
Typically, you'll start with the names of those hosting the wedding. Traditionally that’s the bride's parents, but it’s 2019 and every wedding and family situation is completely different! If your parents are contributing, we encourage you to discuss with them how they would like to be acknowledged. However, I always find a sweet sentiment like “Together with the love and support of their families/parents” works for a lot of situations!
This is where you actually invite you guests to join you on your wedding day. This can be worded in a bunch of different ways which reflects the formality of your day. For example, for a very formal, black tie wedding, you could say "Request the honour of your presence at the marriage of..." but a more casual affair could be worded like "You are joyfully invited to celebrate the wedding of..."
Bride and Groom names
You are the whole reason this event is happening, so of course I like to make sure your names are the focal point of the design. Again depending on the formality of your event, you can choose to include your full names, or just your first (which I’d recommend if your parent’s surnames are already listed above).
Date and Time
It is traditional to spell out numbers and capitalise proper nouns only, but using numerals is completely acceptable – and this doesn't necessarily mean it's more casual. To create a more formal feel, omit "4 p.m." and use statements like "four o'clock in the afternoon".
It’s definitely not required to include the street address of your ceremony or reception venue. Usually the name of the church or venue along with the suburb is enough information for your guests to find their way.
If you are using a street address for lesser known venues or a private residence, street addresses are great but no need to include a post code (which is only required for mailing).
If the ceremony and reception are in the same space, it is common to leave off a time, and simple state "Dinner and dancing to follow".
However, if the reception is in a seperate location to the ceremony, you may wish to word it "Reception to follow at 6 o'clock in the evening" followed by the reception venue details.
RSVP Line (or card)
As I’m all for keeping it simple, I don’t think you need to include your RSVP date on your main invitation, although you should if you’re only sending out a single invitation card.
In most cases, I encourage you to include a separate card. This card would then be sent back to you with your guests details, such as their name/s, if the are or aren’t able to attend, any dietary requirements, and answers to other questions you may have in regards to accommodation, transport or even a DJ song request.
Providing a dress code is the most effective way of expressing the formality of your wedding to your guests. Trust me, they’ll appreciate the heads up so no one feels over or underdressed!
The most commonly used dress codes from most informal to formal are: